Friday 21 May 2021

Oduola and Chris's Wedding


Our very first episode of our wedding planning diary. In this series, we would be sharing our planning experiences from each event we planned and how we managed difficult situations, the challenges we faced and how we managed budgets.

The idea is for people to understand that weddings are not a bed of roses in Nigeria; from planning to bridezillas to wedding budgets to client's expectations and a lot more. I hope you enjoy this new wedding series. Thank you.


Back to my couple, I remember when I first received a call from the bride. She liked a particular concept and kept saying she had been wondering how she would combine black and gold as those were her colours and came across my page. We concluded on a day to meet and we met. 

On meeting with the husband, after giving them a quote, he said he felt I was not charging enough and offered to add more (imagine that)!

Even though I was only in charge of the traditional wedding, it felt like I was in charge of the two days! Lots and lots of planning went down. The groom had a lot of friends he wanted at the hotel in the morning and he wanted me to be in charge of that as well. 

We had to create a timeline for the vendors and couple's friend to ensure that they all kept to time.
The bride didn't want a traditional decor while the groom wanted a traditional set up, so we had to come to a compromise. We agreed to have a non traditional decor while we incorporated traditional effects. For instance, the hostesses were dressed traditionally, (did I mention that the groom was Edo and the bride Yoruba) so some of the hostesses were dressed in Yoruba attire while the rest were dressed in Edo attire.


Photo credits: @shileshonoikiphotography


On the Wedding day, we were delayed by  an hour; every other vendor came at the appointed time but the makeup artist got delayed. We went on with the event but now had to wait for the makeup artist to finish the bride's makeup. But thank God we had put this into consideration and decided to give her one hour grace from the timeline and so we were able to meet up.



The second hiccup was the fact that the families of the bride did not arrive on time, hence delaying the traditional ceremony from starting. 

The couple wanted a WOW! Effect and kept drumming it in my ears, so we thought of a couple of things that required some money but ended up scrapping them because the budget couldn't accommodate it.

Eventually, we came up with the idea of the the host and hostesses dancing in with the engagement letter. The brides friends also danced in after they all changed into their traditional attire.



We also decided to surprise our couple with a backdrop and props for their guests to take pictures.

We also had fireworks go off at some point at the ceremony.

Photo credits: @shileshonoikiphotography


The groom Chris, had a frame he wanted me to decide on a place to put it and we decided that it would do justice at the entrance of the hall.

The wedding was a success and the feedback kept rolling in. Both bride and groom kept saying thank you and they have actually referred another client, booked and all. 





It was fun working with all the vendors, they all brought their A- Games and delivered.

Planner- @laheiress
Decorator- @vaniaevents
Caterer- @sleekcatering and @hitcaterers
Makeup Artist- @oshewabeauty
Official Photography- @tapstudios
La' Heiress Photographer- @shileshonoikiphotography
Videographer- @theweddingtv
Hostesses- @laheiresshostesses
Eru Iyawo- @tinukesilhouette
Banner and props- @ebenezerruth
DJ- @djshina
Band- @gracebandinternational
Cake- @heladio
Cocktails- @eventicocktails
Tradional attires- @auntylucky
Small chops- @ubilicious
Security- @ksquare
Hall- @bespokeeventcentre

Friday 27 October 2017

I have been away for too long


Hello my beautiful readers,

Here is a formal apology to all my readers, followers, fans and every other person who have in one way encouraged me to start and continue my blog. I am sorry for abandoning the blog.

I have been away for this long because I recently had a baby... But I am back.

And I have some thing brewing for our budget couples. It will kick off soon.

I have been working on this project for a while now and even though I got a little carried away and busy, I have decided that it is time to get Just Budget Weddings rolling, with our budget friendly wedding packages. To our amazing vendors who have partnered with us to achieve this dream, we are grateful to you all because without you, we wont be here.

So tell a friend to tell a friend. If you have a friend who is planning a wedding on a budget, let her hit us up and help plan that wedding of her dreams on her budget! #TermsAndConditionsApply

You know I love you, XOXO

Olamide~ The Heiress

Saturday 19 November 2016

The 12-month wedding planning timeline: Does it work in Nigeria?


I do not know about you but in the time that I have spent planning weddings, the 12 month planning timeline has not worked for me, especially not in Nigeria. 

People just don't seem to understand how to start planning a year before their wedding date. Yet, at wedding seminars and trainings, it is been taught to follow the 12 months planning timeline.

So how does this work when your client comes 6 months, 3 months or even a month to their wedding date, expecting a miracle he or she believes only a planner can perform?

We advise that couples should start planning early but not everyone would understand this and not all couples plan ahead and sometimes, some couples want to but do not have the financial capability to start early (which is the case 70% of the time).

I for one, feel that we should all learn to apply what works best for you. Having in mind that someone somewhere created the 12 month planning timeline because it worked for him or her.

 I have had clients who actually intended to start a year before and had it all planned out, only for us to end up starting 6 months to their wedding date.

Another thing I must say is that, it is not everything you read online that you must apply. The truth is, it may be a guide but it does not necessarily mean that it is the right guide for you.

There are a whole lot of reasons as to why the 12 month plan may not work and I will list one or two reasons here.

One, financial restraints. You probably thought you would have some money to start with the planning by a certain time and along the line, some things came up and the money you had thought you would have, somehow got delayed. 

Two, change of date. For whatsoever reason, your initial wedding date picked can change for several reasons. It can be pushed forward or backwards depending on the circumstances.

Three, your preferred vendor may not want to get paid far in advance, as this was not the case before. Vendors used to prefer getting paid far in advance but it is not the case anymore and we cannot blame them, especially not with the economic state of the country.

Things are changing and the country is changing as well. It is difficult explaining to a client why the initial agreed price wont work anymore after receiving a deposit payment, due to flunctuation in exchange rate or any other economic crises at that.

As a planner, only you can determine which planning system works for you. If a client stays true to a plan, then you can follow up with the plan but do not force yourself to plan a wedding using a timeline that will not work for you or your client or a vendor.


In a few weeks, I will be holding a training for those who aspire to be wedding planners and would like to learn how to make a name for their brand in the highly competitive market.

The good part is that I would be sharing secret tips on how to move up the competitive wedding planning industry ladder and get your brand recognized in no time.

The sad part is that we have only 6 slots available. So stay tuned! 


Olamide~ The Heiress

Sunday 4 September 2016

My White Wedding Budget Breakdown


In my previous post, I broke down my Traditional Wedding Budget. In this post, I will be breaking down my White Wedding Budget.


THE BUDGET

Our Budget was Two Million Naira for both the white wedding and the traditional ceremony. But we decided to work with a 1.5 Million naira Budget, keeping the five hundred thousand naira as our extra, in case we had one or two other expenses that may come up.


We had a budget, so I knew better than to visit some wedding stores I knew I would breakmy heart if I eventually ended up buying nothing from. 

PRIORITY

Pictures, our pictures had to be good.

Food and drinks: Everybody must have enough to eat and drink

Shoes: My shoes had to be comfortable as I am not a heels person. More so, it was going to be a garden wedding, so I had to choose my shoes carefully.


We also agreed that we wont be borrowing or asking for money from anyone be it family or friends. We were going to work with what we had. And that was exactly what we did!


Before now, we had asked both parents where they were willing to contribute and we were well informed. We also informed them that we wanted to keep it small and intimate and we were working with a 200 guest list.


We spaced our dates, our Traditional Wedding was in November 2015 and the White Wedding was in February 2016. Both events took place in Ibadan.

WEDDING THEME: Vintage/Rustic



White Wedding Expenses Breakdown

GUESTS: 200

1. HALL: We decided to use a garden. It cost N30,000. ($75)


2. DECORATION: For our white wedding, the decor was not important, mainly because of the wedding theme, so we opted for a simple and vintage look and feel. This cost N200,000. ($500)

3. TABLE, CHAIRS and CANOPY RENTALS. 75,000 ($185.7)

4. TABLE SETTINGS: this comprises of charger plates, cutleries, wine and water glasses, napkin fold. This cost N55,000. ($137.5)

5. CATERER: My mother is a caterer and she was handling the catering but we supported her by giving her N50,000 and some ingredients to aid her cooking. ($125)


6. DRINKS: I bought the drinks myself and found a means to transport the drinks to the venue. Rented chilling chests and got waiters and put someone in charge of the drinks. We opted for breakable bottles instead of the plastic bottles. This cost N130,000. (No alcohol). ($325)


7. MAKEUP:  I had bargained the price for both days since my traditional wedding. So I paid half during the traditional and balanced it for the wedding. N15,000. ($37.5)


8. PHOTOGRAPHY: N60,000. ($150). Bear in mind that I had also bargained for the two days since my traditional wedding. We requested for just soft copies of the picture, since my husband is a photographer, we agreed that he would make the photo books instead. We had no videographer, (we were not going to watch it anyways)


7. MC: N80,000 ($200)


8. CAKE: we opted for cupcakes instead of the regular tiered cakes, we both are not big on cakes. This cost N30,000. ($75)


9. HOSTESSES: Our beautiful La' Heiress Hostesses offered to contribute this as their token of appreciation. (Free)


10. OUTFITS: My wedding dress cost me N38,000. My veil and basket cost N4,000.  My husband's outfit cost N25,000.

Total= N67,000. ($167.5)


ACCESSORIES: My shoes cost N10,000 (I had them custom made) while my husband's shoes cost N15,000, (custom made too). Husband's hat cost N1,500 . My earrings cost N500 (God bless Lagos Market). My Garland cost N1,000. My Bouquet cost N5,000. My umbrella cost N2,000.

Total= N35,000 ($87.5)

12. WEDDING BANDS: N86,000 ($215)


11. DJ: N70,000 ($175)


12: Bride's Parents outfits: N30,000 ($75)


13. WEDDING STATIONERY: invitation cards, menu and reception programmes, welcome frame, toppers, name place cards, table numbers, stickers, banners, directional signs and the likes. N100,000. ($250)


14. CHAPMAN: N45,000 (200 cups). ($112.5)


15. DONUTS: N30,000 (200 donuts). ($75)


16. SMALL CHOPS: N25,000 (100 plates). ($62.5)


17. HOTEL: N48,000 ($120)

18. SECURITY (bouncers): N40,000. ($100)
 (2 bouncers) this also included their logistics expenses because they were coming from Lagos.


19. MISCELLANEOUS: N50,000 ($125)

Grand Total= N1,401,000 ($3,375.7)



Special thanks to all our vendors that made our day beautiful and memorable

1. Decoration: @decormastaz (traditional), @enazcreativitydecor (white)
2. Caterer: @incredibleediblesng
3. Hostesses: @laheiress
4. Stationery: @ebenezerruth
5. Small chops: Muyiwa
6. Cocktail: @boboschops
7. Donuts: @exquisitosconf
10. Cupcakes: @shonoikid_exousiacakes
11. Security: Eze and Crew
12. Hotel: Old Town Hotel (White), Solam Hotel Oluyole (Traditional)
13. DJ: DJ A- Slide
14. MC: @tomiwasage
15. Makeup: @darushmakeovers
16. Photography: @sam.fotography
17. Wedding shoes: @shuufootwear
18. Wedding dress: @franchybridals
19. Groom's outifts: @sd.schon
20. Bride's traditional outfit design: @boosowlar
21. Bouquet: @mz_leemar
22. Garden: Botanical Graden, University of Ibadan.


Pease note that we adopted a strictly by invitation method and many of our parents friends could not believe that it actually worked and kept asking them how we were able to achieve such a wedding in Nigeria. 

Even with the budget we set aside, we still had to spend a little more above it.  That just goes to say that weddings are generally expensive.


Planning my wedding was easy for me because once we were able to make up our minds about our budget and vendors, we started paying them immediately, which took the financial stress totally off us.

I wouldn't have been able to deal with the stress of planning three weddings in the same month as mine, if I had not started with the planning process early.


Your wedding can be as beautiful as you want it to be. It really isn't about how inexpensive or expensive it is. It is really all about you being happy.


So if you want an expensive wedding and you are financially capable, by all means please go ahead. This post is basically for those who feel ashamed to admit that their wedding was one on a budget.



DISCLAIMER: These prices may not work for these vendors now. This post is just to show that you can have a memorable wedding without having to break the bank and also to show that there are vendors who are willing to work within your budget and still deliver quality services. Thank you.


Olamide~ The Heiress

Thursday 14 July 2016

My Wedding Budget Breakdown (detailed)



Like I had promised in my last post, I have come to pay my debt. Lol.


The Wedding Budget
Our Budget was Two Million Naira for both the white wedding and the traditional ceremony. And we were working with a 1.5 Million naira Budget. The five hundred thousand naira was going to be our extra.

Now let me say this, I was a different kind of bride. I do not get easily swayed by social media paparazzi, I have never been the kind of girl to wear what was in vogue when in vogue. I couldn't be bothered with that. That's my kind of person.

For me and my husband, the most important thing for us was our pictures, we wanted pictures that we would see 10 years from now and still be happy. So we both agreed to splurge on our photography but not at the expense of other expenses.

We also agreed that we wont be borrowing or asking for money from anyone be it family or friends. We were going to work with what we had. And that was exactly what we did!

Before now, we had asked both parents where they were willing to contribute and we were well informed.

More so, we spaced our dates, our Traditional Wedding was in November 2015 and the White Wedding was in February 2016. Both events took place in Ibadan.


Traditional Expenses Breakdown
Guests: 200

For our traditional wedding, the decor was important, mainly because we were using a compound.

1. Hall: We decided to use my compound and spend the money for the hall on the decoration instead. (so no cost there)

2. Decoration: I knew the decor had to be top notch, I brought about 4 decorators before I was able to come to a conclusion. N130,000

3. Caterer: My mother is a caterer and she was handling the catering but we supported her by giving her N50,000

4. Drinks: N120,000 

5. Makeup: N15,000 

6. Photography: N70,000. We requested for just soft copies of the picture, since my husband was a photographer, we agreed that he would make the photo books instead. We had no videographer, (we were not going to watch it anyways)

7. Alaga: N30,000 (she was a friend of my husband). One advice, try as much as possible not to expect free jobs from family members or friends.

8. Cake: N25,000

9. Hostesses: Our beautiful La' Heiress Hostesses offered to contribute this as their token of appreciation. (Free)


10. Outfits: I went to a local aso oke market in Ibadan and bought our aso oke, I bought two bundles for my self at N2,500 and N3,000 respectively (N5,500) and I bought for my husband 2 bundles at N3,000 each (N6,000). Totalling N11,500. I decided to let these local aso oke sellers join my aso oke for N300 and I bought beads and attached it to the gele for its special bling effect. That cost me about N3,000. My husband gave his aso oke to his brother who is a very good designer to sew for him at N13,000. Total= (N27,800)

I opted for a dress instead of the normal Iro and Buba. I bought my lace N3,500 per yard and I bought 4 yards. (N14,000). My fashion designer of life, Elan Dash designed something for me and I gave it to my neighborhood taylor to sew for me at N2,500. Total= N16,500

Shoes: My husband shoes cost N15,000 while mine cost N3,500 (flat shoes). Total= (N16,500)

Accessories. My aunt offered to pay for my neckpiece. So that was free. I wore my old gold watch since my colours were black and gold. My husband beads (Iyun) cost N1,200.
Total= N34,200

11. DJ: N30,000

12: Bride's Parents outfits: N30,000

13. Wedding stationery: invitation cards, menu and reception programmes, welcome frame, toppers, name place cards, table numbers, stickers, banners, directional signs and the likes. N85,000.





Hotel: N32,400 (3 rooms)

Miscellaneous: N50,000

 Grand Total= N729,400


I decided to attach pictures because I wanted everyone to see that sometimes, it is not about how famous your vendors are or how cheap they are, you can still get good deals and great quality services. 

More so, there are some good and creative upcoming vendors that are still willing to work with your budgets, you just need to look for the ones who suits your taste and pocket.

I will be posting my white wedding budget breakdown in my next post. 


Olamide~ The Heiress